Is love something we can control? Do you think that there is a little piece of us that tells us who we love? That shows us how to love? Sometimes when I’m lying in my bed at night I wonder why people feel the urge to care about someone so deeply they consider it love. I always tell myself that there is a signal though the brains that tell you that they are the one, but to be completely honest I feel that no one ever truly loves. I believe that we love our family but we never find true love. We date its part of the life circle i guess you could say. Then you put in your time and your trust into that person, and in a second those weeks, months, years even. It all gets shattered because it’s just high school there is so much more time in your life to spend with people. To find the one person that makes you happier than anyone else has. Love is an act of surrender to another person.

Relationships can lack, and/or exploit many necessary things. Velvola Harper, sophomore, said,“I think that almost every single relationship is lacking trust and that people need to learn to trust and commit to the person. Ignoring you can’t be in a relationship and you can’t get someone’s hopes up if one day your going to ignore them.”  Other students agree, Cheyenne Yardley sophomore, said, “ Most of the relationships I have seen are just lacking severe trust and the reason that the relationship falls apart is because of trust issues with your partner. Yes it is perfectly fine to be selfish in relationships sometimes because you’re supposed to share but also sometimes it is ok to keep things to yourself.”

Things you never thought would happen, You get into a relationship and it lasts for a while, let’s say a year. Your happy and you feel like it’s going to last forever, Then things are said you can’t take back and you rethink the whole relationship. Yardley said, “You know when your relationship is failing because of the amount of talking, conversing, and hanging out dies down.”

Here are some things to help you understand which way your relationship is going so you don’t end up getting hurt because no one wants a sad person. The psychology today website 

• Trust Issues

• • These issues may include jealousy, possessiveness, unreasonable rigidity, emotional infidelity, physical/sexual infidelity, relational game playing, lack of reliability and dependability, lack of emotional support, lack of financial compatibility, and lack of mutually-supportive goals

• Different Expectations

• • Your feelings start to change, The things that originally start to fade and you no longer have those things like. – physical attraction,sexual passion,common interests,and personality connections – 

• Moving Through Life at Different Speeds
• • When one partner is learning and progressing at a faster pace then the other partner