Ghosting

Heidi Myers, Writer

Please don’t tell me you fall under the category as a ghoster. Can you even remember the last time you sat someone down face to face and told him/her that you think you should breakup? If so, you are considered old school now.

The hot new method of ending a romantic relationship is called ghosting. It is completely what is sounds like. Ghosting is the disappearing act rather than a proper goodbye. It refers to ending a romantic relationship by removing all contact, and isolating yourself from the other. This may even include ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out. A survey by huffingtonpost.com proves that 26 percent of women and 33 percent of men have both ghosted and been ghosted, while 24 percent of women and 17 percent of men admit to ghosting (but not being ghosted on).

What are the motives behind ghosting? If you are the one doing the ghosting, the motives may be that it just seems easier and that you may be escaping the situation without communication. You are wrong. It is said that it only causes further harsher contact later on. It may seem to keep you mentally and physically safe. But if you are the one being ghosted, the motives that seemed reasonable through the eyes of the ghoster, seem awful. Recipients find it only hurtful and causes anger and confusion.  

Stop this nonsense! Get over your fears or anxiety and face your boyfriend/girlfriend and break up with them. It may seem easier to just drop all contact but you are wrong. Don’t be a ghoster!