When Do I Say ‘I Love You’ For The First Time? ~Anonymous

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A big part of a relationship is trust, and love -but how do you know when the right time to confess is? I was recently asked by an anonymous user on Instagram, at mcphersonhighlifeadvice, about when the right time to say ‘I love you’ is. There isn’t a right time. Not technically, anyways. It depends on how you and your relationship partner feels. 

The best time to say ‘I love you’ is when you are bursting with so much emotion that you feel like you might explode if you don’t let it out. Things like ‘I love you’ shouldn’t be taken lightly. In our society, it seems that if you don’t say it as soon as possible, then you don’t really feel it… But the truth is, that little rule has left people feeling less and less towards the ones they say ‘I love you’ to. Saying it too much makes the words empty. Not saying it enough feels scary.

There’s no right way to do it!

No matter what people say, there isn’t a right way to say ‘I love you’, even if people say otherwise. It’s a delicate situation that requires a delicate solution. There are people in the world that don’t have a romantic bone in their body, and there are others who can melt even the coldest hearts with their gestures. Everyone’s different.

Some people confess their love through music. Others do it with words, whether whispered or shouted. There are people who are so unromantic, they shout it without context, totally randomly, and purely out of nerves! The solution depends on the person.

If you’re a romantic, then be romantic. Go for it. Go crazy. If you’re not romantic… Okay. Be you, whether that’s brash and sudden, or shy and nervous. Just do you. Don’t say ‘I love you’ just because you feel like you need too. If they say it first, don’t feel forced to say it back.

Say it when you are ready. If they truly love you, they will gladly wait until you feel the same way, and are ready to say you love them too. Never say it until you’re ready. Say it when it means the absolute most to you.

If you have any questions, or want further answers, message me on Instagram, at mcphersonhighlifeadvice, or email me at [email protected].

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